Are You Ready to Build

The Relationship You Deserve and Desire?

If you feel dissatisfied or disillusioned in your romantic partnership, you’re not alone. Many of us were raised with the idea that true love means finding our “other half” and that a spark is the best foundation for successful long-term partnerships and marriages. We drive ourselves crazy chasing that feeling… but what if our understanding of what makes a strong coupledom is flawed?

Many of us were raised with the idea that true love means finding our “other half” and that a spark is the best foundation for successful long-term partnerships and marriages

- Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh

Designing the Love You Deserve and Desire

Six Relational Ingredients

Grounded in two decades of original research and work with couples from around the world, Love by Design introduces a groundbreaking new foundation for love: the Emergent Love Model. As Dr. Nasserzadeh explains, successful partnerships do not thrive on love as we know it. Instead of chasing our butterflies, we need to cultivate six core relational ingredients that make it possible for love to emerge.

Attraction

What roles and attributes you find appealing about each other?

Respect

How do you keep each other’s needs and priorities in mind?

Trust

Do you know that you will show up for each other consistently and the ways that matter?

Shared Vision

Where are you committed to going together?

Compassion

Can you each honor the other’s emotional experience without making it about you?

Loving Behaviors

What are the ways you show your love through specific, exclusive, and tender actions?

Offering dozens of exercises and reflection prompts, this groundbreaking book will give readers a new foundation for their coupledom—one that will help it not only survive but to thrive for a lifetime.

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, PhD, DipPST, CSC, is an author, speaker and thinking partner with a PhD in Social Psychology, specializing in the fields of sexuality and relationships. She has over two decades of experience working with thousands of couples across forty countries. Widely respected by her peers for her research, powerful keynote speeches, popular Instagram page and numerous publications, her groundbreaking work has garnered global attention, with media outlets such as NPR, BBC, ABC, CNN and USA Today. Learn more at www.sara-nasserzadeh.com or follow her on @dr.saranasserzadeh.

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In Love by Design, Dr. Nasserzadeh brings us the concept of Emergent Love, a product of years of research and practice, and breaks down why we need to disengage from the enmeshed model of romantic love we see in the movies and move to an exciting but more sustainable way of perceiving and living love."

At last! At last! For so many years we have been waiting for a realistic, effective, powerful way to make love work,. Sara Nasserzadeh takes the wisdom of ages and recreates it to be effective in our own time, supported by evidence-based research and a solid foundation in her ground-breaking work helping couples be happy together.

This wise, practical book sheds new light on the perennial question of how to keep romantic love alive. Read it and be prepared never to think about love the same way again.

Sara Nasserzadeh’s work is the most meaningful gift to anyone! Emergent Love is a revelatory re-conceptualization of how we create Love. No other book so seamlessly blends scientific evidence with clinical wisdom, diversity and acceptance.

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